Archive for Conversation – Page 3


by Tom Atlee

I want to expand the concept of conversation.

The Latin and Indo-European roots of "con" and "vers" connote "turning together".

This deeper understanding opens up new meanings.

When we speak our truths and hear each other deeply, letting each other's voices and ideas and stories and passions shift us, we turn together.

When we dance or listen to music, and our bodies and attention resonate with its shifting vibrations and emotional resonances, we turn together.

When we all share the same perspectives, hopes or horrors within the vibrational embrace of mass media and the webs of telecommunications — 9/11, elections, earth from space — we turn together.

When we respond adaptively to the situations we face — individually or collectively — we are turning together with the energies and realities that reside within those situations.

When we as a community come together in times of crisis, rather than splitting apart into adversarial or self-aggrandizing camps, we are turning together.

As all plants breathe in carbon dioxide and breath out oxygen, and all animals breath in oxygen and breathe out carbon dioxide, we turn together in and as one great cycling flow of oxygen and carbon, 
releasing the energies of Life.

As our one small and beautiful planet spins out its days and nights, and circles the sun into seasons, and glides with our whole solar family on one vast arcing arm of our spiral Milky Way galaxy, we turn  together.

We are in conversation — all of us, all the time, at more levels than we know — turning together.

Waking up is our emerging realization that we can converse more consciously, learn to do it more knowledgeably and heartfully, inspired and inspiring, and thereby evolve together with — and into 
— greater wisdom, wholesomeness, and grace… turning, together.

Nurturing Transformative Conversations

by Ada Luz Gonzalez

Hosting a Café is following a passion and a calling
with a heart full of joy, light, and gratitude.
It is taking people on unpredictable paths of discovery –
moving forward, walking together in collaboration –
until thoughts are ready to spread their wings and fly. . . .

It is exploring and discovering new ways to grow;
it is tending, nurturing, and sharing in relationship,
creating together ongoing conversations
that move like the rhythm of the waves,
bringing change and new meanings in their wake.

It is building a supportive structure that encourages
transformation, expansion, and new possibilities.
It is looking at the context that surrounds us
to consider what discourses are reflected.

It is listening with care to what is said,
always looking for ways to expand the conversation,
to pause, to reflect, to question, to listen, to engage.

You should focus on the strengths that give the courage
to climb higher, to look deeper, to walk farther . . .
gently teasing, bringing humor, walking lighter,
and in dreaming, acting rightly.

Collaboration between equals is the goal,
respecting needs, agendas, values, choices, timing . . .
never as an “expert” never truly “knowing,”
always curious, always ready for surprises.

Nurturing conversations uses all of me,
my full humanity. . . .
And in living true to self, in being real,
I become a clean vessel, for great wisdom
to flow through, illuminating others.

Ada Luz Gonzalez is a nurturer of transformative conversations facilitating change through dialogue and collaboration. She holds a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior, and has extensive training in systems thinking and different forms or dialogue. She is also a licensed psychotherapist. For more than 20 years she has worked in Latin America and USA with individuals, educational institutions, and organizations, helping leaders lead change through transformative conversations. More information about her and her work at

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The Nature of the World Café

As part of a conversation with World Café stewards in Europe, Ulric Rudebeck from Sweden shared these beautiful insights on the nature of the World Café:

"My friend Ulrich S(oeder) says
This question goes back to four basic semiotic dimensions: How do we relate to the physical world (it), ourselves (I), the others (you) and the medium which enables us to be in contact at all (we). It comes back to pre-personal (it), personal (I/you) and transpersonal (we), or body/soul/spirit.

I like this. So let’s start there. But I like to turn it a bit outside in. You may be familiar with my metaphor of the World Café as a being. So if the (I) is “TWC”. what then?

She, because she is definitely a SHE, was born in a kitchen. She will always be close to food. She will never starve. "It" was in conversation and dialogue so she will always be close to people and conversations. Her first travel was with her parents J(uanita) and D(avid) all over the world so she will always consider the whole world as her arena. J and D gave freely to others because they were proud of their child. So she becomes a free spirit. Soon she started doing things on her own. She explored other places, without J and D. Her true nature and fundamental structure, in fact her DNA, is "the question". No Q(uestion) is too profound, No Q is too deep. The world is there to be explored.

She is by nature a giving person, but not naïve. She has a sense for resources and money. She moves freely  between NGOs, governmental agencies and profit multinational corporations. She understands the language of all kind of business; she speaks all languages and knows all cultures so she will be at home wherever she goes. 

But she also has fears: No company, no people, no curiosity, and no dialogues – these can all make her sad and loneliness is a ghost of horror. Communication is the very ground of nurturance for her.

Now she is growing. She is prepared to take the large questions and the really big issues to heart and start making the jump from relative safety amongst friends to the skeptics and those resistant to change. She is prepared and well so. We can not stop her – no one can. Not by structure, not by rules. This woman is a rule maker not a rule follower, even if she deeply respects her own seven principles.

She relates to (it) by being in constant flow, bound by no physical restrains. Life is a dance and a field, not a structure or a matrix.

She relates to (I) by regarding herself as beautiful giving freely and curious about all, with a spirit that all is well in the end if we talk about it freely. Her purpose is dialogue and she will die when there are no humans left.

She relates to others (you) by trust and curiosity prepared to learn from all and anything.

She relates to the transpersonal (we) by being the container, the contained, and that which transforms the content, all in one.

I have a hunch we, her stewards, try to structure too much and let go too little, but I can be wrong. I have been so before."